Shifting Your Perspective For A Better Reality

You may have experienced the differences in perspectives when there are two people looking at the exact same scenario, but one person views and interprets it one way, and the other a completely different way. You and someone else could live the exact same life, but could be perceiving two entirely different experiences. For those who would say they live a mediocre life, in fact live a mediocre life, because they are perceiving it to be exactly that.

You might be thinking: 

Why aren’t things better? 

How come my my partner doesn’t just love me the way I want to be loved? 

Where can I find a freakin’ career that is fun and pays me well? 

Why is it SO. HARD. to connect to people and find actual meaningful friendships that aren’t surface level and basic?

And if those thoughts have crossed your mind at any point and are frustrating to you, I HEAR YOU. Because I’ve been there, and I lived it. You feel lost, alone, confused, and upside down on certain occasions.  For me, I really was discouraged with my life and found myself comparing, focusing on what could be better, and how I could fix it. I couldn’t seem to shift my perspective away from that. 

My biggest pain point as a millennial was this: I knew what I wanted to feel, be, and have, but I had no idea how to make it happen and see it through. 

The world was working against me, not for me. That’s what it seemed like at the time.

I longed for a job that I loved – making a difference and having a purpose. I wanted freedom. I needed clarity around who I was, and what I was after. And more importantly, what I had to offer. And this is what seemed so far out of reach. 

I was focusing on what I didn’t have, instead of paying attention to what I wanted to create. 

Read. That. Again. 

Do you know what happens when you focus on lack? You lack even more. 

When you focus on your pain points, you get more pain points. 

And when you spend your days saying “I’m just trying to find XYZ in my life”.. I’m just looking for ways to get rich quick, marry my perfect partner, buy the home of my dreams and escape this mess I’m living in.. then guess what? 

If you’re worried about finding something that you haven’t found, then the focus and vibe you’re putting out is on what you’ve not yet found. 

So how do you move past this mindset of “lack” and shift your perspective to “abundance”?

In order to move past the mindset of lack, you have to redirect the dialogue from “I’ve not yet found this” to “I DO already have this, and I’m grateful for it”. 

When you focus your thoughts and emotions around what is going well, around what is already here for you, and put an emphasis on all the things that bring you joy, satisfaction, calm and contentment… guess what? You get MORE of that. 

Because energy goes where focus goes. 

You want bad bitch energy? Go connect to how that would FEEL. 

The moment I decided I would practice gratitude, meditation, self-love and focus on what was satisfying to me in the moment, this radical spiritual awakening happened and things just got better, and better, and better and… better. 

How to shift your perspective and get into a positive mental state to attract what you want

There are 3 simple little things I want YOU to start doing every single day if you want to experience this shift in perspective for yourself. I’ve been practicing these foundational habits for a while now, and have experienced more and more abundance and synchronicities in my life than ever before. Just two short weeks after I started being grateful for my job vs. complaining about the shitty company I worked for? I got an email from the company I had been dying to work for saying they were ready to onboard me. THAT’S what happens when you choose to be in the present moment, find alignment with your life, and get your mindset straightened out. The good gets better. Here’s where to start: 

1). Meditation/Mindfulness : 

→ Utilize a guided meditation or practice using a meditation mantra each day 

→ Sit in stillness and allow your mind to get quiet 

→ Practice being in the present moment. Remember that past-tense thinking is related to depression, and future-tense thinking is related to anxiety. Just be in the NOW. 

2). Gratitude 

→ Write 3 good things that happened in your day, every night before bed. This raises your vibes and gets you focused on the positive. 

→ Express thanks openly. Tell your friend you’re super grateful for them, or something they did. Express gratitude for your job, your community, and your health. 

→ Actually feel grateful. (PRO TIP: expressing gratitude in a half-assed way when you’re in a bad mood really does nothing). 

3). Affirmations 

→ A positive affirmation is any positive/uplifting statement or phrase that you state out loud, or write down that builds confidence and good energy and helps to overcome negative beliefs and sabotaging behavior. 

→ Choose 2-3 affirmations you can recite or write out each day that inspires you. (PRO TIP: do these within an hour of waking when your subconscious mind is most active).  

→ Even if you don’t fully believe these statements at first, your brain will start to pick up on them and they will become your new belief system. 

Commit to shifting your perspective and mindset each day with these tools. Do it for 30 days and see how things start to change for you by developing these new habits of thought. It does not take long – I promise. But don’t stop after 30 days.. Keep going and make it your new lifestyle. 

If you’re interested in learning more about how to apply this information to your own unique life, or want to jump on a free call with me to get better clarity around something you’re struggling with, I’m happy to do so. You can book one right HERE. 

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